Contradictory Ibu

Kisah Aina lagi....

This episode happened some time back, can't actually remember when. I'm not sure about yours but my kids love to be told to do things over and over again. I'm just not sure why they enjoy hearing the Ibu goes slightly above her normal pitch. There was this one day, I told everyone as usual to take their bath, while I was busy downstairs, when I came up, I saw everyone has taken their bath except for Kakak Aina who was happily watching television only with her panties and camisole on. I then blew my top and started nagging and telling her off and about being a big girl should set an example to the younger siblings yadda..yadda...yadda..

She with her sour face then dragged her two feet into the bathroom, once done, she took her pyjamas and unashamedly dressed herself in front of me and I went 'dah besar...bla..bla..malulah sikit..bla...bla.. you're 10 already..big girl...tut*tut* pun dah nak tumbuh dah...coverlah sikit..bla..bla...

The day after, she wanted to buy ice-cream, I was pissed off because she decided to tell me that once we have reached home after I have driven them around after their co-curricular activities, so I got upset again and she got another shelling for taking me for granted..yada..yada...yada. And then she went why are you scolding me? I can go buy it all by myself, I can cross the street and I don't need you to take me there. And Ibu responded with 'you're still young...bla..bla..bla..it's not safe..bla..bla..remember Nurin...bla..bla..kena culik..budak kecik..yada..yada..yada..

And then she went 'Which one am I Ibu? Big or small? Young or budak besar? Can you please decide? You are definitely confusing me.'(while scratching her head)

Cheh!
Parenting?
When can I ever get it right?

P/S- Aina, you are kecik or besar whenever I want you to be!!!! Your duty as my child is to do what I told you to do. Don't argue.

P/P/S - Kids - you spend the 2 years of their life teaching them to walk and talk and the rest of the years telling them to sit down and shut up.

Missing My Girl

Aina has gone off for a 'Kem Perdana Kebangsaan' and I am missing her terribly. The fact that handphones are off limit made this separation more unbearable.

The night before the camp, as we were packing her stuffs she told me she is looking forward to this camp as this will be a real camp since they are all going to squeeze into big tents not the usual camp she has attended where participants actually stayed in a hostel and slept on a proper bed.

Before she went off to lala land that night, she cried a bit when she realized she has not many friends with her there. Too many strangers and the only person from the same school who is going with her is a Year 5 girl who she doesn't really know that well. Ironically, she doesn't have much choice as they are only selecting 2 students as representatives a Year 4 and a Year 5 who are AJKs of that uniformed body.

As she is the only Year 4 AJK for that particular uniformed body, the teacher didn't actually give her much choice, on the other hand, knowing Aina dia memang suka benda-benda cam ni. The teacher called both of us begging Aina to go and as Aina pun tergedik2 nak pergi. My hubby said 'bagi jelah' it will be a good experience for her, little that we know that connection to her is almost non-existence except to call the teacher and ask how she is as she is not allowed to use phone there. Sigh!

She went off last Thursday morning and coming back tomorrow evening. And the fact that it has been raining for the past 2 nights has made me worried sick on how her condition like sleeping in the tent. Kesiannya anak Ibu!

Alamak! How should I React to This?

You know when people commented "Waaa..you have 3 girls ah? Pening ah nanti."  I didn't actually comprehend what they are trying to say.  To me nurturing children is one tough and challenging task and I do not think having different genders children would make much of a difference.

And I always hate it those people who read about social ills in the newspaper or listen to the immoral acts of todays teenagers and went 'Nasib baik aku takde anak perempuan'.  What is that supposed to mean? What are you trying to say here? That all the things happening are all women's fault because it is visible to us and it is ok for men to have such bad behaviour because the parents tak payah tanggung malu sebab orang tak nampak if the child ter'pregnant'.

  What I want to stress here is please do not make such gender bias kind of comment, it is the man who is supposed to protect us the woman who apparently by nature dijadikan sebagai kaum yang lemah and not to take advantage of us.  We are born with 9 nafsu and 1 akal whereas the men have 1 nafsu and  9 akal and kalau ikut maths pun 9 is such a big number and logically is able to kawal the 1 nafsu tu betul tak? I think it is just  simple maths. Budak darjah 1 pun boleh identify that 9 is a lot lot more than 1.

So basically what I want to say here is that because we are so used to hear such comment, I believe it makes the men to become less and less responsible because society is condemning only the girls and not the boys.  How is that fair? What we should say is, we all should take care of our kids and make sure this thing does not happen to us and not put all the blame only to one gender- the girls.

Alright actually what I want to write is not about the issue above but how my 10 year old daughter has been getting attention from the other species and I am not sure how I should I deal with it.  You know when our kids were young we beamed when people praised them but now that she has slightly grown up and starts to develop some curves, I no longer appreciate the praise that she gets from the male species, grown men.  The other day, when we were in pasar malam I told her to get the 'keropok lekor' while I buy the veggies at the next stall. The guy manning the stall started to strike a conversation with her, making jokes and whatnot and I got worried and that was not the first time it happened, there was one time that a guy selling burgers was busy asking her name and phone number, luckily she was smart enough not to 'layan' these people.  These people could be harmless but it sure got me worried.  Am I overreact?  It is difficult now to get her to help buying things because she will bring this kind of distraction and I definitely do not welcome it.

Not only that, the other day, I happened to read her messages in her inbox.  I wasn't snooping it's just that she told me to help with her FV.  This boy confessed his love to my girl 'Aina please love me'.  I got the shocked of my life, I asked her and she went 'I hate it Ibu, please delete the message.'  The next day he wrote 'why are you not responding to me, is it because you love someone else?' and she went 'Issh Ibu gila ke apa budak ni?' She told me to delete the message but not until I replied to the message 'I am still young to think about love, can we be friends instead?' just because I was told he is such nice and a polite boy by her friends.  He's not bad-looking too as he comes from a mix parentage, the mom is a 'minah salleh' ok, actually he's a hunk.

So yesterday when she was in the car with me, I asked about the boys in her school and she went 'semua kawan jelah Ibu and I'm not sure kenapa that boy tulis macam tu because I have never talked to him, he was my classmates last year tapi tak pernah cakap pun but the girls adalah usik cakap S is in love with me.'  And I asked 'Dia pandai tak?' and she went "pandailah jugak, he is in the second class, I'm in third class' and I went 'he is good looking and clever, oklah tu Aina' and she went 'Apalah Ibu ni, Aina taknaklah, mengarutlah Ibu'.  Ahh...what a relief! to hear her answered like that as I am not sure how am I supposed to react to that if she too develops the same feeling for that boy?

Oh Aina you still my baby, my little girl tau, don't think about boys yet until you are 25 ok?

In a Flash

Last Saturday, my eldest daughter Nuraina took part in a competition called 'Pertandingan Syair Islam' and she emerged as champion beating other 20 students from other religious schools all around P.J. Good job darling!

Sadly, we did not manage to witness our daughter road to glory due to a communication breakdown. We started the day quite early as my daughter had to be in her religious school by 7.15. So I woke her up at around 6.30 am, after taking her bath and prayer, I told her to get ready, she was then clad in her agama school attire as stated in the rules for the competition. She told me to put some light make-up on her face and once done, the time was closed to 7.10 am. I told her to eat something but she went 'we are late already, Ibu, we have to go now, Quick'. Furthermore, she didn't feel hungry due to the butterfly fluttering in her stomach.

So we walked to the school which takes less than 3 minutes walking distance and true enough we were the first to reach the school. The other participants for tilawah, story telling, pidato and khat writing came minutes later. Their ustazah (the religious teachers) were the last ones to arrive about 20 minutes later. So things got pretty kelam kabut and I was told she was number 31 to perform that day. The ustazah told me that the competition will commence at 8.30 am.

At around 8.30 am, I called my daughter through her handphone, and she said it is not starting yet. As we were planning to take everybody to watch kakak Aina, we basically time ourselves that we should have ample time to watch her if we go around 10.00 am as each contestant takes 5 minutes to perform. So as we were about to get everybody into the car at around 10.00 am, hubby received a message from Kakak Aina 'Dah habis dah' and we were looking at each other and our brood in the car and we went HUH! Dah habis! Laaa... Macamana boleh jadi camtu?

Dissatisfied, we still went to the religious school located in Damansara Utama. The place was swarming with people, it was difficult for us to locate our dear daughter, as everybody looked almost the same in their uniform. Afer a wild goose chase, met her ustazah and was informed that only 20 students took part and she was the 16th person to perform. That was around 10.30 and result will only be announced at around 2.30. So we decided to go back.

When asked on how did she think she performed that day, she said "Ok, I don't think I can get number one sebab ada orang yang hebat lagi tapi no 2 or no.3 can kot Ibu". Nevertheless, she tried her best and that what matters. So she only got to know the result on Monday when she attended her agama school. The ustazah took the trophy home on her behalf.



Hilman had his second haircut last Sunday, he was such a sport that he didn't cry at all this time. Well done, my boy!





Nabil is now playing football in this team called Elves and he plays the position of a striker and doing pretty well in his team.

Khairina is now reading quite well, still slow but not too bad. She had us almost worried as the elder siblings could read at the age of 5 and she was still struggling when she was at that age. She still behaves like a baby, doesn't have a sense of responsiblity, often loses her belongings be it books, pencils (especially), eraser and etc. Tak tahulah budak ni. Berbuih dah mulut cakap.

Dhaniyah still loves dancing and singing but still shy and timid in public. But she sure can shake those booties.

So that's it. My progenies in a flash!