Tuesday, June 29, 2010

Contradictory Ibu

Kisah Aina lagi....

This episode happened some time back, can't actually remember when. I'm not sure about yours but my kids love to be told to do things over and over again. I'm just not sure why they enjoy hearing the Ibu goes slightly above her normal pitch. There was this one day, I told everyone as usual to take their bath, while I was busy downstairs, when I came up, I saw everyone has taken their bath except for Kakak Aina who was happily watching television only with her panties and camisole on. I then blew my top and started nagging and telling her off and about being a big girl should set an example to the younger siblings yadda..yadda...yadda..

She with her sour face then dragged her two feet into the bathroom, once done, she took her pyjamas and unashamedly dressed herself in front of me and I went 'dah besar...bla..bla..malulah sikit..bla...bla.. you're 10 already..big girl...tut*tut* pun dah nak tumbuh dah...coverlah sikit..bla..bla...

The day after, she wanted to buy ice-cream, I was pissed off because she decided to tell me that once we have reached home after I have driven them around after their co-curricular activities, so I got upset again and she got another shelling for taking me for granted..yada..yada...yada. And then she went why are you scolding me? I can go buy it all by myself, I can cross the street and I don't need you to take me there. And Ibu responded with 'you're still young...bla..bla..bla..it's not safe..bla..bla..remember Nurin...bla..bla..kena culik..budak kecik..yada..yada..yada..

And then she went 'Which one am I Ibu? Big or small? Young or budak besar? Can you please decide? You are definitely confusing me.'(while scratching her head)

When can I ever get it right?

P/S- Aina, you are kecik or besar whenever I want you to be!!!! Your duty as my child is to do what I told you to do. Don't argue.

P/P/S - Kids - you spend the 2 years of their life teaching them to walk and talk and the rest of the years telling them to sit down and shut up.

Sunday, June 27, 2010

Aina is back!!!!

So Aina came back yesterday evening and everybody was excited and so happy to see her. They all came running down the stairs shouting 'Kakak Aina dah balik! Kakak Aina dah balik! Yay!' I tell you the house was pretty quiet without her around and everyone went 'When is Kakak Aina coming back? We miss Kakak Aina.'

Kids are funny you know. When the Kakak is around they get into so much fight and Kakak Aina being her nosy and bossy self will start too bicker and sometimes the way she scolds the siblings lagi teruk pada Ibu dia marah and we often tell them to sit down and shut up and suddenly when she's gone, it feels awkward that there's no one to boss around the younger ones and the silence was just deafening.

Anyway back to Aina, she had so much fun camping and she hopes that she will get selected again for the camp. My girl is definitely an outdoor girl, give her anything to do with outdoor activities, she's up to it. Jangan suruh duduk rumah and study and you can see her long face. Why ah liddat? When I asked her how is it like sleeping in the tent, she went cool ibu, can we buy a tent and camp outside the house? Pulak! And according to her the nights that it rained, they camped inside the hall and it was all fun.

Glad that she had fun.

P/S- "Ibu ustazah said if we mandi bogel, malaikat tak akan dekat. So can I wear panty and camisole when I mandi from now on." "But you still young darling, takpe kot mandi bogel." (Ish! ish! I'm ashamed of myself, teruk betul Ibu dia ni) *ada tanduk kat kepala*

Friday, June 25, 2010

Missing My Girl

Aina has gone off for a 'Kem Perdana Kebangsaan' and I am missing her terribly. The fact that handphones are off limit made this separation more unbearable.

The night before the camp, as we were packing her stuffs she told me she is looking forward to this camp as this will be a real camp since they are all going to squeeze into big tents not the usual camp she has attended where participants actually stayed in a hostel and slept on a proper bed.

Before she went off to lala land that night, she cried a bit when she realized she has not many friends with her there. Too many strangers and the only person from the same school who is going with her is a Year 5 girl who she doesn't really know that well. Ironically, she doesn't have much choice as they are only selecting 2 students as representatives a Year 4 and a Year 5 who are AJKs of that uniformed body.

As she is the only Year 4 AJK for that particular uniformed body, the teacher didn't actually give her much choice, on the other hand, knowing Aina dia memang suka benda-benda cam ni. The teacher called both of us begging Aina to go and as Aina pun tergedik2 nak pergi. My hubby said 'bagi jelah' it will be a good experience for her, little that we know that connection to her is almost non-existence except to call the teacher and ask how she is as she is not allowed to use phone there. Sigh!

She went off last Thursday morning and coming back tomorrow evening. And the fact that it has been raining for the past 2 nights has made me worried sick on how her condition like sleeping in the tent. Kesiannya anak Ibu!

Thursday, June 17, 2010

How to Win Your Wife's Heart 101

It's very easy actually to win a wife's heart because we women are soft hearted especially to the person we love. It actually doesn't take much of an effort but the correct approach to it will make this world a better place to live in and our home a haven on earth.

1. What husbands need to know is that most wives hope that men will show some compassion without even telling, for example try helping the wife around the house with the household chores and you can see the wife will be sooooooo grateful and a happy person that she no longer feels tired easily doing the same stuff over and over again.
What usually makes us grumpy and then we started to nag because men refuse to be sympathetic and labeled housework as a wife's job. Excuse me, there's no such thing, most couples now are both working, you can't expect a wife to go to work and take care of the housework all by herself. You need to eat too and wear clean clothes right? So do your part in helping out and everyone's happy. It doesn't take much actually just a simple-simple thing like throwing the rubbish without the need to be told or help washing the dishes will make the wife all wide smiled.

2. Allow the wife to have some 'me' time. Maybe a husband can try to care for the kids all by himself once in a while and you can see the positive changes in her. She appreciates you and the kids more.

3. Talk nicely to her if you need things to be done or there is something you are unhappy about, try approaching the subject in a subtle manner and you will see she will respond to it better than blaming her or accusing her for things not done right. If you do it gently she will be more open to change her way or style.

4. Surprise her. It doesn't have to be expensive gifts and not all women like flowers but you will be surprised how they will react to flowers if they are given as a surprise because most women love surprises as there are signs of love, affection and appreciation.

5. Most people say that men are like babies they love to be pampered. Well, well waddaya know women love to be pampered too. A good foot massage or a shoulder massage after a long, tiring day at work, gives us this signal that our husband cares for us.

6. Impromptu hugs and kisses with no hidden agenda and saying 'I love you' daily may seem cheap but they are definitely a way to a wife's heart.

7. Go on a date - just the two of you and it definitely brings back the passion and the fire you used to feel for each other during your courting period.

8. Help the kids with the homework or attend to their needs and you can see the wife is thankful she has chosen you as her husband and the father to her children.

9. Pay for her facial or haircut and she will be truly grateful.

10. Don't be stingy with compliments- do it often and sincerely for her look, dress, the food that she cooks or the way she does her things.

11. Make a point to remember important dates like birthdays (wife, kids), anniversary and make a point to celebrate.

12. Be a good listener - it matters to a woman for a husband to listen to her point her view and take her words seriously.

13. Call her or message her from time to time when you are away from each other.

14. The easiest way and it definitely would work everytime is to take her shopping and pay for her stuff(with no complaint) and you will have the happiest wife in the universe on that day.

Dare to try?
Do it and you will win a lottery!

*Not only that a happy wife contributes to a happy home and a happy home brings out happy children, happy children make happy people. Happy people contribute to a happy society.

Here's to a better world to live in.

Sunday, June 6, 2010

Lesson In Life

Read this from Cerita Ibu's blog and I thought to share it here.

The following is the philosophy of Charles Schulz, the creator of the 'Peanuts' comic strip.

You don't have to actually answer the questions. Just ponder on them.

1. Name the five wealthiest people in the world.
2. Name the last five Heisman trophy winners.
3. Name the last five winners of the Miss America pageant.
4. Name ten people who have won the Nobel or Pulitzer Prize.
5. Name the last half dozen Academy Award winners for best actor and actress.
6. Name the last decade's worth of World Series Winners.

How did you do?

The point is, none of us remember the headliners of yesterday.

These are no second-rate achievers. They are the best in their fields.

But the applause dies.
Awards tarnish.
Achievements are forgotten.
Accolades and certificates are buried with their owners.

Here's another quiz. See how you do on this one:

1. List a few teachers who aided your journey through school.
2. Name three friends who have helped you through a difficult time.
3. Name five people who have taught you something worthwhile.
4. Think of a few people who have made you feel appreciated and special!!
5. Think of five people you enjoy spending time with.


The lesson:
The people who make a difference in your life are NOT the ones with the most credentials, the most money...or the most awards.They simply are the ones who care the most.

Pass this on to those people who have either made a difference in your life, or whom you keep close in your heart.